Controversial opinion...babushka -
Saw this discussion on tumblr, gonna rephrase
Safe spaces where we'all can vent, relate to each other and joke about cishets without cishets being present are valid and important
And i think a huge chunk of tumblr was treated like this kind of a safe space, but now the line between safe space on the internet and the entire internet in general, which is full of cishets, is blurred, however, the attitude remains
Cishets people bump into "my content isn't for you, go away oppressor" as they try to interact with lgbt+ folks, and the educational blogs they are supposed to interact with to learn how to be a good ally often have similar negative attitude ( "you'll never make up for the oppression we've experienced so shut up, don't ask stupid questions" ). What happens then? Cishets decide that it's way too much of an effort to get educated about other people. They decide that lgbt+ folks don't need them and don't want them around. So they go back into their cishet circle. While still being the majority of the voters. And when asked "are you aware about the problems lgbtq+ people face?" they'll say "what problems? none of my friends face that problems" and find it hard to empathise with lgbtq+ folks because they haven't interacted with them at all. And then vote for something else instead of lgbtq+ rights.
This is just a thing that happens. I am not saying this is anyone's fault. I am not saying lgbtq+ folks have to get out of their way to interact with cishets - it's not just uncomfortable, i can be dangerous. You don't have to. But maybe we should separate vent spaces and discussion spaces so that everyone would feel safe. I really don't know. Also not everyone has to educate/make an education blog. If you don't wanna do it, if it wears you out, if you are not ready for how endlessly stupif people can be, maybe starting an educational blog is a bad idea. I really don't know anymore.
i absolutely agree with this.
while yes, lgbt+ people don't owe cishet people any kind of explanation, it's good to at least give them a nudge in the right direction or tell them someone who can? when you lash out at someone asking something that sounds like a stupid question, it's...not a good look for the community tbh! yeah, there's always the risk of someone not being genuine about it but that doesn't mean it's okay to lash out and say "this isn't for you," y'know?
imo, it's always good to try and give an explanation, but it's good to remind them that, being that they are cis, het, or both, that they cannot speak on certain topics in the slightest and to also listen to other gay, trans, or both ppls opinions on things. for me, i kinda try to explain things as best i can. if the ppl i'm explaining stuff to refuse to understand and try to talk over me, that's when i take a step back and say "ok, these people don't actually care" and move on
#cosmic chatter #a bit of tag talk here but im referencing something that happened in june in that 2nd paragraph #we were talkin abt some transphobic bs and the convo was between me and two cis ppl #i talked abt dysphoria using me and a friend as an example #and one of the cis ppl said "and you dont need to tell anyone that. its your business" #(well along those lines) #and while like...i could see she was trying to be nice #but the comment came completely unwarranted since im at peace w my dysphoria (for the most part) #and it just made no sense given the prior context #i had told her i knew but thanked her anyways #and then cis person 2 started being rlly aggressive and saying that i was trying to start a fight #i was trying to explain how the comment came off and she kept saying "but that wasn't her intention" #which. real quick! even if you don't intend harm your comments can come across as harmful #and she just kept saying that i was being a dick and turned around #thanked the server owner for making the server a safe place #like...wow #also hit me w the "mother of two trans kids" schtick and :/ #when i contacted the server owner abt it later he was also. Not great #he criticized me for leaving the server and said "i robbed myself and others of the chance to grow" #which like...well if you read the convo #i tried to explain and i was very clear abt what i was saying #i don't need to grow. y'all do #he also started with the "i'm a privileged white cishet man" which #also not great #this is largely summing up the situation but im still highly bothered abt it #i still have screenshots of the whole convo so if anyone is curious feel free to message me abt it #ill go further in depth #oh yeah last thing! he blocked me afterwards lol28 notes
Just my ocs, Mali (any pronouns) and Helix (they/he), drawn somewhere mid/late june. I’ve been working on redesigning their outfits, so you probably won’t see much of them in those clothes anymore. Can’t wait for what future brings with these two :smile emoji:
[Id: a digital artwork of two HiddenCarpet's ocs, Mali and Helix. Mali is a tall brown muscular person with long straight black hair tied up into a ponytail. He's wearing a red crop top with it's sleeves destroyed to the base, a blue vest, some grayish blue trousers, a red belt made of farbric, and yellow brancelets. Helix is a fat brown person with long brown curvy hair tied into a low ponytail and sideburns. They are wearing a long navy blue cape with big pink strips and light blue dashes. They also wear an sleeveless orange shirt and brown trousers. They are both standing, with Mali's back turned to the viewer and Helix him tightly around his back. Helix presses their nose against Mali's shoulder, their face is tired. Mali's hands hang loose to the ground, still. The cape floats around with the wind. Background is yellow transitioning to hot pink around characters' heads. End ID]
my shoulder hurts: :[
thinkin abt my fursona gizmo: :]
me: oh cool! some chill people! maybe i can finally play certain video games more ofte-
the people: *uses r slur* *makes ableist remark* *makes ableist remark* *constantly makes gross jokes* *uses r slur* *makes ableist rema
#cosmic chatter #text #this is abt league which i mean yeah its league #but like i rlly genuinely enjoy playing league but its a game i CANT play alone #and its so hard to find someone who plays league who hits ALL the marks #bcuz like...sometimes you come close! #but then u learn that they're largely ableist and man #wish ppl didn't throw neurodivergent/disabled ppl under the bus yknow4 notes
I love Miruko!! I had fun drawing her though I have mixed feelings with how this turned out hhhhh
hey can ppl watch the owl house cuz its rlly good
it's abt a teenage girl, luz, who loves weird and magical things but her love of this stuff gets her in trouble. her mom wants to send her to a boring camp so she'll stop getting in trouble. before the bus picks her up, she sees her stuff disappearing and follows it into a door that leads her to an alternate dimension, the boiling isles. here, she meets eda, the owl lady, and the most wanted witch in the isle, along with king, the self proclaimed king of demons. after some events, eda agrees to teach luz magic
thats a shoddy plot summary but yeh (its also based on my memory that happens in the first episode. after the first episode you start getting the actual plot/worldbuilding and its v good and interesting (which makes sense: if you watched gravity falls, dana terrace and alex hirsch are working on the show w dana being the creator)
rn i think my biggest struggle is coming to terms with the fact that im likely disabled? idk its, i dont wanna say weird to think abt but thats the only thing i can think of?
#cosmic chatter #text #my chronic pain gets so bad its actually debilitating but its just like #when i have the good days and can do stuff i just #idk i feel like im blowing it out of proportion/that im lying abt it #which i know is a symptom of basically meaning that yes i am disabled #but ahh1 note